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You may find yourself in a relationship not realizing that your partner has depression, or the depression may set in once your relationship has already started and catch you off guard. Dating and romantic relationships are extremely personal, and many would argue there’s no way to “control” who you fall in love with. Still, on the surface, emotionally unavailable people can appear to be very stable, says Elisabeth Mandel, LMFT, a relationship therapist based in Manhattan. From as long as I can remember I have had the ability to switch off my emotions at will.

They don’t prefer expressing their emotions

I’m demisexual so I think that’s some of it for romantic relationships but my emotional attachment in general works this way. It could also be a trauma thing but I’ve never unpacked that. I have a friend who will engage in lightning-speed text banter for hours, then suddenly go dark and completely ignore a question I asked for days. At first, I was offended and questioned our friendship. Without even talking to him or getting the facts, I made a decision to distance myself.

“It takes time to build that trust. It doesn’t necessarily say anything about you if they have trouble being intimate,” she adds. If your partner has a fear of intimacy, healing can happen. But not until the person with the fear of intimacy can practice what it’s like to communicate their thoughts out loud safely. When things get rocky in your current relationship, you may drift off to these other possibilities instead of working on what you have.

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Figuring out that it wasn’t real helps with the confusion somewhat, but the emotions don’t respond to logic and still want the fairy tale to be true and to return to the delusion. It’s called narcissism, sometimes sociopathy. Although, the majority of the human race seem narcissistic to me and perhaps they are these days… People that cause devastating hurt to other people’s lives… I think, as we age, we have a moral responsibility to consider the feelings and wellbeing of others. Unless you’ve been with a lot of women, perhaps this is the part you should focus on in your healing process.

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However, you feel somewhat lonely and desire a close relationship. When you’re seeking a partner, or even just new friends, it can be wise to know some of the potential clues that a person might be drama-prone. During certain life stages, it can be particularly important to surround yourself with people who are easy to be in a relationship or friendship with. I became more interested in this characteristic of BPD, as I knew all too well the symptoms of switching. In my journey with this mental disorder, I knew that I had been experiencing it for quite some time and could not understand why.

Feeling your emotions, and expressing the way you are feeling is natural and healthy. You find a way to cope by going numb, when really all that is doing is delaying the feeling. You can listen to the sad songs, the happy songs, or even the silence. In the end, you are still going to be you, every emotion at once, and all your thoughts dancing across your mind.

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They call and send texts, apologizing, explaining how they’ve changed, and assuring you they’ll never make the same mistake again. In general, the time to seek help is when emotional or mental challenges start to interfere with someone’s daily life on a regular basis. Emotional detachment is a psychological condition in which a person is not able to fully engage with their feelings or the feelings of others. When people ask why you’re being so quiet or distant and you just don’t know how to put your words together to explain what you’re feeling, you’re not alone.

Im talking about having a nice day and then the smallest thing ruins it… So now, yes, people can switch off and on the feelings they have very easily after being hurt soo many times and have trust issues. On/off switch people set off IED’s in people’s hearts like emotional terrorists, but they’ve got their reasons. They are themselves trauma victims in some way.

Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop? Although people complain about their problems, many have even more difficulty accepting the good. Like snake charmers, these wooers may also be adept listeners and communicators.